There is always a Choice to Turn Back towards Restoration…

The Flame of forgiveness

That day he felt so much away from God. Whatever happened in the night with her was like a dream, but so real to call it a dream. Lots of passion, emotions, and words, but missing was love. Being a believer in God, he suddenly realized that he has broken all the Ten Commandments. Thoughts were going through his mind and he felt as though there was no one more wretched than him. Questioned attacked him from all directions “Do i deserve forgiveness ? “and “How can i look at a Holy God who is Pure and holy and demand for forgiveness or grace ?”. Out of the frustration his cry echoed “There must be a way, there must be a bridge between this Holy God and this sinner”. Ah, Jesus ! But for all my sins ?

The next morning he woke up and a voice from within requested him “Take a White Sheet of Paper and write down what you have your mind, your love hate, anger, frustrations, sins, or guilt, whatever you have in heart and mind.” Hopeless as he was, yet his arms went for a pen and paper. As he started writing, the tip of the pen started reminding and reliving all what he did, choose and went through. There was intense pain and sorrow, everything all together, pages after pages of choices and consequences.

As the time passed, the nib slowed down and finally it stopped. So wet were the pages because of the warm tears. And then the voice said “Burn it”, and so he lit the end of the paper with a match stick. He looked at it burning rapidly violently, thick orange and yellow flames turning the white pages with the writing and the tears into ashes and vapour, burning everything except miraculously his signature.

Then the voice spoke “Look at it my son. The White paper represents my Son Jesus, everything that you wrote, you traded it on to Him. I as a Holy GOD as you said couldn’t stand any sin. My Wrath in it’s intensity fell on Jesus and your sins were burned into flames taking my Son’s life. The remaining un-burned  paper with your name represents your name Written on my Son forever, and you will forever exist and Live  with Him, and He is I AM, and you a part of us. I love you”.

Light of my Soul

As the sunshine fell on my bed today,
Wide awake on my bed to stay,
Found self amidst a different world
To begin with, an altered heart I saw in me.

Feels like the greens are now gone gray
The blues have faded is tune,
The one who I thought she was,
Was i my mind, a history.

To the Light i said “you are my guide”,
But seems like, it has just got dimmer
Has the world expanded further, I wonder,
Does anyone no more really care ?

So intense, the loneliness which I fight,
So hard, to tell my heart “move on”
Yet Look around for a final hope,
None i found, and to the heavens I cried “why o why”

“mind has power”, they said,
‘Ignorance is bliss’ I concurred then.
But this now I do recognize,
As it took me to the pages of History.

There i saw a man named Job,
Unsure of the job he did then,
But looses everything of his, everything he loved,
Yet to heaven he bowed, and in worship he was still.

My heart arouse with a stronger beat
Seemed like a resurrected soul in me
And now to the heavens I cried
“How Great is My God Indeed !!”

He is History, The He in me,
When my light leaves, He shines,
When I fall, i recall the truth
Still on His shoulder is my place I sit

When all is lost and all is gone,
When she left, and he said “bye”,
When alone in the darkest time,
I can still sing to my soul.

“it is well with my soul”…

-Ashrit Mathew George

4. The Unopened Gift Box

I’d like to share my thoughts on this topic. What I share could either offend you or change your life, depending on your heart’s condition. But no matter what, The Truth does not bend itself to satisfy the emotional contentment or personal feelings. In these days relativistic and post-modern philosophy, its high time that we raise our voices and stand for Absolute Truth and Absolute Realities in life so that we may prevent the up coming generations from suffering.

Love, Truth, Relationship, Purity, Holiness n’ Restoration are few things in life about which I’m passionate about. And i believe for any human being, deep within, these are the longings of the heart. When it comes to relationship, one of the things which we look forward to is that unique, exclusive, passionate, intimate, experience of sexual pleasure. We hardly find a couple who is not looking forward to this. And if they are not looking forward to it, well, they got issues. This is the gift in the box.

When you go to the mart to get a product, especially Electrical, Electronic or mechanical, we see a tape/sticker with a bold font “Don’t accept if the seal is broken”  or “If Seal is BrokenCheck Contents Before Accepting“. This tape/seal guarantees the quality of the product and it says that the product have not been tampered with. We find it secure and confident to go ahead and purchase the product. If the seal is broken, first of all, you would not find comfortable to proceed with the purchase because of the insecurity it creates in our mind. Ignorance to this detail, could lead to a number or problems, starting with getting a non-returnable damaged product’. I think you are smart enough to  narrow down to what i am coming to. However, let me take the extra step of detailing my thoughts.

Now, what I’m sharing here is not only restricted to sexuality, but also to emotions and mind. I’ve heard from my friends telling me that “I’ve been used by him/her”. In fact, I’d hurt a girl in the past, emotionally, and she had told me that “i feel used”. We both were in our vulnerable times. Then later, i got back to her with the help of another lady friend and spoke  to her, and my other friend by God’s help was able to help her out, and we now have a healthy friendly relationship. I’ve friends who have been abused in her childhood and who have been cheated by someone who once affirmed Love by words and sex but not by commitment. Later he married someone else. Later she found herself vulnerable to be in sexual intercourse with other men. We look around to find stories after stories in the similar lines.

The Best Gift, one can give to his/her partner is a self that is not tampered with. It’s more like receiving a sealed package with bill (evidence of commitment to the purchase). In her young age (late teens to 20’s), a woman would be at her peak of seeking for emotional fulfillment and
satisfaction, while for men, the sexual pleasure. In the pursuit of meeting up according to feelings, we end up in unhealthy risks of sexual and emotional involvement, in which over 90% of the relationships ends up in breakup after the involvement. This is because the foundation of the relationship was based on something that was shaky, “Emotions n’ Feelings”. They are never stable. And these breakups are usually, very painful, depressing, tormenting, devastating, and very destructive. Entering into a sexual relationship outside the covenant of marriage would be equivalent to buying a product without the bill. No proof, no security, risking life, no Love, but just feelings.

I’ve come to a conclusion that one who involves himself/herself in multiple sexual relationships is in an even worse condition than that of the people who end up in the Red light streets. At least, the women in the red light area realizes that their body has a value, while others do it, ignoring or nullifying the dignity, value, and significance of his/her body. Am i saying that prostitution is right? Absolutely not. I just took the other side of prostitution.

In the expression of feelings, surge of emotions, and pleasure of sex, outside marriage, we forget or ignore one important matter, The Next Generation. In Article: Love in Relationship, I’ve written something related to this. The child born outside of marriage (wedlock), is introduced to an insecure, broken, unsafe, isolated environment where there is the least expectancy for love, affirmation and acceptance, and the child grows up to be with the fundamental requirements such as Love, Acceptance, Affirmation, Identity, and Freedom missing in his/her life. As he/she grows up to be a man/woman, he/she looks outside the house for what he/she is lacking, and so being vulnerable no unlike his/her parents, and everything is back to square one. You can break this cycle if your family is caught up in this.

Talking about all these this, I’m no alien to these feelings. Many youngsters deal with it well with the help of their parents, and because of their upbringing. While  majority of the youngsters come from unstable, peaceless family environment. They look for comfort outside the family and tries to find satisfaction in opposite sex. I’m also from a broken family environment. It was hard for me. I wanted to be in a relationship real bad, and all crumbled down followed by disappointments, discouragements, frustrations, worries, sleepless nights, and a weak heart. It’s been 2-3 years now since my life started taking a turn towards restoration. Today, I stand to speak of what i went through which is the evidence of the restoration and healing in my life.

One of the Expressions of love is to wait and keep the purity of our body for that special person Within a Committed relationship. It could be a struggle in the beginning. But once we realize that the waiting is worth it, we will not compromise our purity no matter what. That’s what Love is all about. Do not be discouraged even if you have taken wrong turns in your life. Because there is always a turning back and healing and restoration.

One of the missions of my life is Restoration, which means THE BEST IS YET TO COME, provided we make the right choices. No matter how messed your life is, there is a way to restore it. I would suggest you to go through the article: Love in Relationship when you have time.

In My life, the Ultimate source of Restoration of my broken life is Jesus Christ. Introducing Him to you is the Best gift I can ever give you, out of Love

God Bless You

Love

 George, Ashrit Mathew

“Intent, in the pursuit of truth, is prior to content, or to the availability of it. The love of truth and the willingness to submit to its demands is the first step.”-Ravi Zacharias.

In this article, my heart is that you would reason and ask yourself the questions. So I’m not here to give the answers as there are very personal and subjective.

Before getting into my thoughts, my heart pains and pushes my mind to recall my personal experiences, and stories of experiences of broken relationships and disappointments in marriages.  It is really painful yet interesting look into our own heart and ask myself  “WHY am i in this relationship, in the first place ?!” Of course, this is a very personal question. Another way of putting the same question would be “Why do i love her/him ?”. This might sound as rude as it is when we are in overwhelming emotions of the attraction to the other person. Few of my friends shared with me their stories and difficulties. And i discussed with them on the lines of the same question. I see it time and time again that, when one is already emotionally involved in an attraction/relationship, it is a battle for him/her to reason out this question. I’ve battled it. It was difficult. But there was a time i had to tell my heart “NO !” and give my mind its presence, for I was convinced of what i was about to do. So i see again the humility that difficult relational tensions impose on people, recommending them to ‘shut-up and listen’.

I  have heard recently a statement “Love is Blind, and Marriage is the Eye Opener”. As humorous as it may sound, it is a sad tragic fact from the pages of history to the very hour in which we are living. However, I disagree on the first part of the statement:”LOVE is Blind”. We as youngsters many times replace ‘Emotion’ with ‘Love’. If it is said “Emotions  are Blind, and Marriage is the Eye Opener”, i would more agree with the statement. Because as I mentioned before, in the weight of emotions we kick reason through the backdoor, not realizing that it’s wisdom which is on its way out.

My thoughts actually points out to few of my thoughts which i have already shared in my previous posts( Link1 , Link2 , Link3 ). Why is the reason that i would like to be in relationship ?!  And if I’m already in a relationship, “what do i like about her/him ?”

As I’m a guy, let me share thoughts from my eye view. As frank as i can be, Beauty n’ appearance is one of the main things that appeals to guys, which in turn moves to a sexual motive. But many times we make the mistake of grasping the face and missing the heart. I was emotionally involved with a girl who was beautiful in appearance. It was not only her appearance that attracted me to her, but also a desperate need from within for love and acceptance, and to someone to talk to. It took time for me to realize that there was much more to it. Midst the struggle of trying to maintain a stable relationship with her, few things caught my eye which caused me to rethink about whatever was going on. I came to realize that heart matters much more than the appearance of her. The manifestation of what was in her heart even through her simple gestures were not desirable nor attractive, at-least to me. During this time, God stepped into my life, filling my desperate need for love and acceptance through the person of Jesus Christ. As i was out of that emotional stranglehold, the grasses were much greener and i could see the pros and cons of that relationship. I’m not saying here that she was bad for I’m not a judge, but it was a revelation that we would never get along together well in the long run. Maybe she had a need to be fulfilled too. Maybe she was having in her own life struggles.

Currently, I’m growing in my relationship with God. I’m seeking more of Him so that when it’s time, I have more to share with my partner than to take/grab from her out of desperation. My heart that we would look at the Presence of God, beauty of the heart and appearance, yet the presence of mind, and the Wisdom of the elders as the starting point of a life together as man n’ woman, husband n’ wife.

Dear reader,


If you are a follower of Christ Jesus, I’d like to share a few more thoughts. If you are in desperation to be in a relationship with someone, I’d encourage you to look into your own life, your own heart. See what is missing. What is the cause of the desperation ? Is it some area in which you have not allowed Jesus to work in your life? Are you feeling empty ? Do you need
help ?! A partner can satisfy your needs only for a short time, if he/she too in desperation.  Is it what you want from your life ? But that’s Not what Jesus has called you for. Through Jesus you are the son of the Living God, through adoption (Eph 1), which makes God your Father. Ask Him, and He can and will fill you. Have a walk with God. Drink from Him. Live and Out of Him. Doesn’t matter how far you feel you are away from God. That’s the whole point. He is right there to meet you where you are. It’s just a matter of a turn, a U- Turn.

Regards

George, Ashrit Mathew

Do Not be Unequally Yoked

Says a manuscript written centuries ago. I wonder how many of us understand what this means. I feel that a village life would speak about this than our urban lives. They live mainly on agriculture or something very much related to nature. Let’s take a walk through the paddy fields of South India.

As we walk on the path made between the paddy fields, we notice that farmer, full of dirt on his body, wear just a cloth to cover his dignity, is trying to till the field with two bulls and the plough. We see that both the bulls are connected and steered together with the help of the plough. The part of wood which will be fixed on the bull would be yoke.  In this technique, it is very necessary that both bulls are equally sized. If unequal, the steering of the bulls become difficult, and the plough wouldn’t go in the  desired direction. It would also cause discomfort for the bulls.

This one of the most important matters in relationships which we ignore/miss when we enter into an emotional bondage of relationship calling it “in love”. Mainly because of this, many of the relationships ends up breaking up or in disappointment or frustration. To those who are not sure what I’m talking about, let me try to explain.

Each and every person is unique, special, precious, and different in their gifts and abilities. None can actually say that one is better than others, because everyone is an expert in their own gifting and specialties. All these unique gifts adds flavor to our passions and desires of what we would like to do in our lives. And God adds meaning to it all.

Let me tell you about my desires so that you might understand and be encouraged. From the time when I was a kid, I loved music and I used to sing, but even sweeter than now :).I loved playing with electronic devices and components too. Since my teens, I started having passion towards computers, and now into Philosophy, Art, and Theology. Still I have the passions and desires as mentioned above. So the work I’m doing right now and the things that I do, even this very article is pleasure and a joy for me, because it all out of my own desires. Thank God for my mother who is an encourager and who gave me the freedom to pursue my legitimate passions and desires.

If I start being in relationship with a lady who has nothing to do with my desires or my convictions, the obvious result would be: Either of us might compromise/suppress their desire for others ending up in a hidden suffocation, or it could lead to selfish pursuit of own desires/dreams in opposite/different directions ending up in a broken family/distant relationship, or it would cause high friction between us leading to disappointment, uneasiness, frustration, blaming, judging and finally breaking up.

I’m not going to tell you what girl am I looking for. 🙂 That is not the intent of this content.

It is true that none will have same exact gifts, but if both knows the meaning life, and if both have a common destiny and purpose, things could be more easier, merrier and better. If two people are running towards the same goal in the same direction, in their own flavor, both could help and encourage each other to move on.

Dear reader, if you are a follower of Christ Jesus, and if you have a desires to to more of Him, this article would make more sense to you than any other person from a different  worldview/religion. The moment you allow Jesus into your heart, what Jesus gives you is a fresh, new perspective of life itself. He defines it so clearly that you will stand in awe. What Jesus give you is not just an Eternal Perspective of things, but also the authority in His name to do greater things than anyone who doesn’t know Him. When God says not to be yoked with an unbeliever, He means it for our good and to preserve holiness in our life. A partner who doesn’t know Jesus can destroy all the plans what God has for you in this life. He/she can take you away from Jesus too. If you are in such a relationship, trust God and break it and throw it away. Never look back. I know it could difficult. Because I’ve been through it and I’ve done it by God’s grace. Let God bring people together by His Guidance, not by our Mistakes. If you need to speak to me, you could let me know. But if you are committed and married out of ignorance, never loose hope, God is a God who forgives and restores. Hold on to Him. He will help you out.

Dear friend,

If you were wondering, why isn’t there a continuation post in the AGPL series, the reason is that i was critically unwell and was hospitalized. This is the testimony of my recovery. May God encourage you in someway 🙂

According to me it all started with a chicken. That eve I ate the chicken, and on the next morning was a red-hot guy sitting at my desk in my HP office. I was burning as hot as the sun in the Chennai summer noon. Unlike the other times this was different. First that it made me exhausted n’ tired. Second, after long years of relief from Astma, it was only then was I having a breathing problem.

As I reached home, I could barely move, unfortunately, by that time the painters had started re-painting my rented home. And my mom was worried as “I have not seen him like this for long years” said she. But I had to smile with an intention to make her feel better. She told me that she would take me to the Church on the bike to which I declined. Gathering all my strength I took myself and walked to church texting mom at every checkpoint that I’m still ok to make sure that I will reach to church walking. Reached the church, grabbed the house keys from uncle’s parents and crashed in the guest room.

As the boys, Gold, and Sylvester came in the evening, poor fellows ! They didn’t know whom they were going to meet. Gold was like “comon man you can do it” and Sylvester, well he was trying to make me laugh like always. But soon they realized that I couldn’t gather my strength. Gold started putting ice on my head, but I was so determined to be hot. I tried to sleep but I couldn’t. Cuz during sleep we take deep long breathe which I couldn’t. My mind as always wouldn’t stop thinking too. I thought about the politics, life, marriage and so on. It was difficult. So tired, feverish, unable to breath, lots of thoughts blazing through my mind, and without sleep.

One fact about me is that, the last thing I’d ask for was a doctor or a hospital. No matter what sickness, I believed that “I’ll survive. I will overcome”. It was about “I” being on top of it all. But the next night changed it all. As I was unable to sleep, I started walking at 3:40 am inside the house like the ghost. And I felt like fainting and for the first time, I found really helpless  and I dialed Gold, and said “help”. Poor fellow didn’t have a proper sleep for over 48 hrs, yet he came down with Silly, and in let than 20 minutes, I was in hospital.  Admitted ! Amidst these, I kept the Facebook updated, thanks to Android.

Sooner was I joined by mom, and Sanaton. The Doctor was scratching his head trying to figure out what’s wrong with me, and he exclaimed. “He is a complicated guy ”. The beautiful nurses laid down their frustration on me through the needles that pierced through my veins. Blood suckers. I’m not sure how much blood they took. At the day of discharge I’d a lot of black dots on my hand. The blood test reports came in and they said “The platelets are going down”. Thinking that it was something as important as “cutlet”, I went off to sleep. Some concluded that I had “Dungui fever”, which I heard “donkey fever”, which others said “we have to wait for further investigation” like I was a crime scene. And soon I found myself in the scanning section of the maternity ward which raised a lot of questions in my mind. But to my appointment/disappointment, the doctor inside informed me that “I was not pregnant”.

In the background was someone who put her hand into it, Achsah with her VIP contacts brought down Dr. Prabhu from Apollo Hospitals. He was after my blood. But He encouraged that everything will be all right. Soon was I made know that I had turned into a temporary vampire? I needed blood to survive. More specifically, Blood platelets. I needed AB+ blood platelets. They tried the same from blood bank from multiple donors which didn’t work. And then the angel came, our friend and sister, Pushpa. She went to Apollo gave some of her platelets which soon was in my body and I started recovering as the platelets started multiplying in my body. Fever came down. And my breathing issues were also dealt with. Adah was here and there all over the place. Where does she get the energy from, I wonder?

But again in another stage, God was doing something else. An un-invited, surprise visit of my father and my eldest brother. It was a surprise and a joy, yet unable to express. It had been long years since I spoke and saw my father and another chance to see my brother even though in constant touch. We had a good chat. All went well. They left the next evening. The so-called Mistakes are mistakes for man. So not for God. He turns man’s mistakes to His glory by adding it into History which ultimately reveals How He took the glory all through it. I believe that God is doing something powerful. Something none can ever imagine. So I’m not wasting my time imagining about it.

During the time, unexpected visitors from my office came in to. My lead, manager, trainers and few of my colleagues. It was good to see them unofficially, as simple as they are. I was humbled by their humility.

I was discharged and was privileged to be in the boy’s new home for the first eve. Few events which happened over there are hidden for my security reasons.

In this story are people, lots of people. Some named, some unnamed. I can’t explain more about what they did in this article, as trying to explaining more of what they did would be equal to undermining what they have a done for me. Can words completely explain a picture or the feeling of being rescued from death? Do I have words to thank everyone involved in it? Neither am I an English pundit, nor am I God.

But Mom, I love you. I can’t explain what you went through neither can I read your mind. But I just say that I love you.

At the end, I’d like to share few experiences in my personal life.

The first thing was humility. I was weak and helpless. God broke the pride in me so that with a humble heart I can cry out for help. That stays as one of my lessons. One of the ways of being humble is by asking for help so that the glory goes to the helper.

During the difficult times, I made 3 prayers in my heart. Let Your Kingdom Come, Let Your Will be done, and if I die, it MUST be for a greater Glory of my King.

I remember someone praying for me. As I was so weak that i couldn’t follow what they prayed either. But was this immense courage in me to sing loudly “To Him Who Sits on the Throne, and Unto the Lamb. Be Blessing and glory and honor and power forever ”.

The whole situation again, slowed me down, to wait, to rest, to find myself in the arms of my Father God. It was difficult, yet encouraging.

But here is my main point. I really don’t know even now what exactly went wrong. It was not completely “dungui fever” or Asthma or what the condition was called. But I do know one thing, who My family is.  My church. During the time, in the initial stages my mentors were away for a brief period. The Church shows her character and her heart when she goes through difficulty. The circumstances become the opportunity to BE who she really is in those situations. It broke down few of my un-surfaced barriers within me, answering my question “how big my family really is”. I’m today glad to say that the family size is now more than I could ever imagine. My family is across languages, across cultures, across regions, across voices, but yet united in one spirit in Christ. My church I love you, you are my family. May Our LORD really bless us and help us to be who we are meant to me. The bride of Christ, the representative of who He is, in the world to the world.

LOVE HOPE FAITH,

                         But the GREATEST IS LOVE !!!

God Bless you !

1. Truth with Grace

This post could be a bit heavy for some of you, but I would request you to take time to read it carefully and try to understand what it’s all about as it is extremely important to make the connection between love and truth. Truth is something which we have forgotten about, because of which we are where we are, almost at the verge of self-destruction of the entire human race. This could save you from the trouble. And by the way, “To all the sick lovers who lick the carpet for your girlfriends, “Grow up”- unknown”

Let me start with the Quote from approx. 2000 years ago said by a person called Jesus.

“Everyone on the side of truth listens to me”

I won’t tell you the same thing for I’m not Him nor am I worthy to be in His shoes nor worthy even to untie His sandal strap. But there is something important in this statement.

People who are only in the side of the truth listen to it. One who hates the truth does not have love in him. One who says that he loves, but no truth has no love at allAnd finally, one who has no love tries to destroy the truth, or anything/anyone that is claimed to be true. But truth does not depend on the mood of the day, or from which side of the bed you woke up, or even on the black cat that crossed the road when you got out of your house. Whether you are drunk or frustrated or even dead, the sun still rises in the east and sets in the west.

Many of the things that I am going to share here and in the coming posts are not much on the weight of emotions, even though emotions have a role in Love and relationship. It could be a bit rigid and firm but with a beauty of itself.

 There are many things that we do in our young days when our blood is hot and running wild. And there are many things of which we are not that proud off to be talked about in the public. Especially to do with sex, drugs, alcohol, or sometimes even smoking. We men enter into relationship and use women for their selfish gain and please our sexual drive. It could go from women’s magazines, pornographic, movies, chats, and even to the extent of intercourse. I know of my friend in my college who said was in love with one of my dear friend whom I considered my little sister. Well, soon after the college, the boy went his way breaking her innocent simple heart. Girls could get into relationship and so emotionally involved that finally, they would compromise their virginity in the surge of emotions and what to them looked like feeling of love till later. No sooner will the man does his thing, he shakes the dust of his shirt, and vanish from her life forever. One of my friends is a victim of such injustice. The life which she lives is hard, and she finds it difficult to move on. Adding to all these are many other family issues, emotional issues, and even mental/psychological issues. Finally, when we like a girl, we present our best before her, hiding all these under the carpet so that our image is not spoiled, and we will not lose the girl or the boy. The true life is no more in the air, but under a mask that fakes everything.

Truth will not bend or break, but can only be hidden. But here is the interesting thing about truth. Truth and History are always in love. They are so close to each other. History brings the truth out into light anyway. No matter how hard we try to hide things, it will all come to light one day, but that day would be more painful and destructive. If you testify and confess the truth yourself, it is well and good. It stays private and you will feel secure and not much people will know. And even if they know, at least they know that you are not faking yourself, which would gain you respect and honor. But if you allow the history to do it for you, it is more of an effect of you being forced to walk on the street full of people, completely naked or like history given a microphone and a loud speaker.

Here is the point. If the man is truthful, it is well and good for him. He doesn’t have to worry about a thing. He is respected and History shouts his fame across the pages. But when a man hides issues or certain truths, he better be very careful. History reveals the truth; it will be like a fish torn stuck in his throat for his entire life. It eats him up. Something similar happened to the Satyam system’s Ramalinga Raju and he finally he said “It was like riding a tiger, not knowing how to get off without being eaten.”. If you don’t know about the story, to read about it later, click here.

Lack a truth was never the issue. It was our hatred towards it because of our pride. Truth makes us Transparent and we feel weak. We feel we will be destroyed if we speak the truth. But here is the truth about the truth. Being truthful is amazing. It is glorious display courage when truth triumphs by your choice. It shows how strong you are from the inside. The more truthful you are, the less vulnerable you are to the voices against you. Bring truthful brings that being of selflessness. It humbles you. It keeps you safe and sound for the future. It gives you respect and honor. The ultimate result of being truthful and being on the side of truth is Freedom. Know the truth and ‘the truth’ shall set you free. 

Many of you must be thinking, “If I tell her/him the truth, “that will be it”. The relationship will be over”. I understand and respect that feeling, but the fact is this that it will happen anyway, and the truth will be out anyway, the question remains how and when you would like the truth to be revealed. The sooner, better it is for you and the other person. If your partner/would-be is leaving you for you being truthful, the relationship is not worth it. If he/she leaves you, you must enjoy, because you have better opportunity than the other person. One, who can’t stand truth, has no love either.

The reason why I mentioned about the mistakes/issue which we make and go through are not to condemn anyone, nor to judge what is right and what is wrong, even though objective morality exists, but to help you relax and let you know that these are real issues and nobody is an exception for such things in life. The only difference is in the degree to which we do what we  choose to do. There are ways in which we avoid these issues too, but as it is will divert from the topic, we won’t be discussing it here. I too have struggles and face difficulties. The interesting thing is that the other person, in my case a girl, will also have a story of her own to tell, about her difficulties, weakness, and mistakes. At that point, what I do with it is very important.

Truth as it is can many times be very destructive and offensive, as it is the character of the truth that it is exclusive and it disagrees with everything else but itself, without any compromise or feeling. Here is when grace makes the entry to the stage. Grace in expression is to relate with the person no matter who, to understand with patience no matter how long, to forgive no matter what, and to be with the person through it all no matter how. So when my would be (not girlfriend) of whom I know nothing about as of now, shares with me about her life, I better show her some respect and give her the grace to listen to her as she is showing immense about courage to tell the truth trusting me and hoping that I would be with her. So would be better for both of us, for her to respond the same way when I speak the truth about my life.

Dear reader, if you are a follower of Christ Jesus, you have the opportunity to get connected directly with the grace of the Only Living Working God. If you allow Jesus to transform you, you will be truthful in everything you do when you walk with Him and He transforms your heart from within. As I mentioned, being truthful shows the condition of the heart and how strong you are inside. Since Jesus is in your heart, you will be the strongest to proclaim the truth. And showing grace would be a piece of cake as Jesus is not just Truth in Person, but also Love in Person. Hold on tight, wait for more…

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