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Freedom of Speech, is it really Free ?

I’d like to share my view on FREEDOM of SPEECH, and to the question is it really Free ?, and this is something that we need to think about, and I’ve written about this too but only in short versions.free-speech

Freedom does not give you the right to do whatever you want to, but the responsibility and power for what you ought to – Jim Caviezel’s interview by Dave Cooper

There is a lot to talk about. One is aspect of Love and its relationship with Freedom and Freewill, and it’s relationship with Art (Creativity). And i’d like to explain how my faith give me reason and make sense than any other explanation I’ve found.

So to speak about the topic of FREEWILL is and will be meaningless and inconclusive unless we start looking at it from different aspects.

One of the main difficulties we have in knowing what is FREEWILL/FREEDOM/FREE SPEECH has a lot to do with one of the most misunderstood Word by meaning, LOVE.

What is love and how do we understand what love is ?

Many a times it is narrowed down as mutual feelings which starts with two individuals, and pleasure that comes along with it, and finally THE END, so much for TRUE LOVE which Lasts forever !!

Consider the relationship where a Father gives whatever his son asks for whether good or bad, doesn’t matter. Is that really Love ? When the Father says ‘NO’ to something which he knows that which will hurt his child, is that a lack of love ? Absolutely not ! There are certain things which the Father has to say ‘NO’ to so for his son to sooner or later realize that his Father Loves him.

Another aspect of Love is between two wedded lovers (man and woman) who are in LOVE. Love between them is a very exclusive expression where there is truth and freedom to each other, but violated when a third part enters. When a third party is involved, the Exclusive Love doesn’t exist anymore since, neither does Freedom available only by that EXCLUSIVE LOVE, for True Freedom only exists only where True Love Exists.

To say that one is ABSOLUTELY Free or to say there is absolute FREEDOM, is to say that there is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and ACCEPTANCE, which is only in the PRESENCE of GOD ALONE, and HIS SPIRIT can give, and through us HE CAN Express this UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. love_freedom_now

I’ve explained the relationship between Love and Truth here

And what about Art and Creativity ? Where there is Love, there is Freedom. Where there is Freedom, there is freedom of expression, and when LOVE Expressed it explodes into Art and creativity in it’s true form…

So all are connected. If the purpose of Art and Creativity is violated, which means something has gone wrong in the understanding of freedom. If the freedom is not understood, it has something to do with misunderstood of the TRUE meaning of Love. And if Love is misunderstood all that we do and all that we are just meaningless.

This understanding and connection with LOVE, TRUTH, FREEDOM, and ART comes from my faith in JESUS CHRIST, who is the EXACT representation of GOD’s UNCONDITIONAL Love for you and for me. Unless we understand this LOVE, we NEVER Understand FREEDOM, We never understand RESPONSIBILITY, and TRUE ART.

Special thanks to Arnub Vs. Free Speech : News-hour Qtiyapa 2 after which i was inspired to write these thoughts.

It is Truth that give Love strength, and it is Love that gives Truth gentleness

By Ranjit Gorde – To his parents – A Committed Love – A Example for Marriage to the 21st Century Youth

60 years!
That’s how many years they have been together, my dad and mom!
They have been through thick and thin, war and peace, a time of bondage and freedom, overflowing with abundance and bone dry empty barns, health and sickness, a place of glorious honor and downright humility, being pioneers and hopelessly lost, dearly loved and utterly hated, cheated and blamed, …….. but they stuck on.
They are of were not perfect individuals. At times they have hated each other’s guts. But they stuck on! From the ages of 24 and 19, they have never wavered, in fact, they have gone way beyond the vows made before God and man! Nothing could break that bond! Don’t know how they did it.
An inclination is that they wanted a girl, but lo and behold they got, one after another, six boys! That did not deter them from loving us. Not that we were perfect kids. We, in our ingenious ways, have tried and tested their love, patience, forgiveness. None of us ever felt less loved, less cared for; they gave us 100%. They never ever hinted that we were a burden but the six boys was their reason, the propellers, to go on for another day. They made us each feel special, each most favorite. They always gave us the best they had. Sacrificed their pleasures, their dreams, just for us.
They taught us values rather than the rules, God rather than the Law, prayer rather than pleading! They taught us nothing was insurmountable, no dream was too big. They shared the knowledge, and the imparted the Truth. They sheltered us, fed us, disciplined us, all six of us, without any partiality or favoritism. Do not know how they did it!
They are the best and I am blessed! I thank God for both of them.
Even as the day approaches, October 14th, I remember, I was not with them in Bahrain…I missed the 25th, the 50th, and most likely I am likely to miss the 60th wedding anniversary! And I know though they will miss me they will love me just the same.
Happy Anniversary!

Communication, Enhancing relationships ….

My mother always reminded me, “communication was very important in any relationship. ” To which i responded “……”. Nothing….

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We had our disagreements and my pride telling me “I’m not the one who must change, she’s the one. ” or my vocation/tiredness telling me “you don’t have to respond anything, she will understand it anyway”. Now, i could say such things had done more harm to my relationship with my mother than anything else. She might even had thought she’d better have a robot at her home which at least responds… But because of my selfish prideful attitude, not only my mother was hurting, so was i as there was not peace and always a disturbance… And i looked to the heavens… to which a response came “Boy, you need to take a look at your heart”. From then started a pursuit for transformation of my heart and renewal of my mind.

Life is very busy, isn’t it ? We have jobs, responsibilities (if singles, we are least bothered whether we have or not), career, and somewhere in the basement, Family. We have time for everything,facts of life with which the self can be comfortable with. To buy food, cars, bikes, houses, Computers, TVs, Bigger TVs, and even Bigger TVs.  Our time is used wastefully lavishly. As i travel in the trains and buses again and again, i look around, i see people, lots of them. They either don’t care/bother to listen to anyone, or don’t have anybody to listen to. And when you start speaking to them, their life opens up, right on your face. A broken family, a broken finance, broken health, and what not.. and these pains stay suppressed under the curtains of the handsome/beautiful faces.

Now, as i look to God through the Scripture (Bible), and the broken human relationship, one thing is clear. We have missed 2 things :

1. Waiting/Listening.
2. Communicating/Responding.

The pains and difficulties of my journey invoked a cry for help to the heavens, God above, and my cry was genuine, and He knew it and He responded. But He was not talking about tips n’ tricks to change others, but I as person. The more i waited, wrestled, and listened to Him, there was something happening in me, and still happening, which for sure i knew is NOT me. As God stated speaking to me and telling about Himself, and His Holiness, yet His tender transforming  love caught my attention. And the only response i had was “My Life is a Mess”.

And i started speaking to Him in response, and many times, even found it difficult to talk about few things thinking, “What would Jesus think about me ?”.  Even thought it took it’s time (waiting), there was something changing in my own heart and mindset, towards God and towards people. I started introspecting my own heart other than pointing fingers at others, started listening and communicating with others than just being by my self.

“The more you are desperate for victory in your own personal life, you will be hard on yourself for a change, and soft on others” – Leonard Ravenhill.

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If dear reader are struggling in matters to relationship, the best place to start is ‘share’ your life story to someone whom you find trustworthy. And if you are in Chennai, and if you want to share your story with someone who would listen to you, River of Destiny is the place for you. It’s been over 4 years since I started coming to this place, and i could literally see me coming into Life from Death..

Truth with relevance….

Jesus Lived 2000 years ago, and after His death and resurrection, His disciples went to the distant places and preached and LIVED the Gospel, and finally died for it. Since then, the Truth of the Bible have been shaping, resurrecting, and rebuilding millions of lives in the last 2 millenniums. Each faithful men of God became God’s mouth piece in their generation.

After Jesus making everything eternally relevant, His followers LIVED and MADE the Truth of the Kingdom relevant to their generation. One of the reasons people are not serious about their faith in Jesus Christ is simply this that they fail to see a relevance on how the Gospel connect with the daily lives in the 21st century.

Jesus came to reconcile man to God, and to reveal the Truth about Him and us which would ultimately transform and renew our life. The more we allow Jesus into our lives, the more God transforms our heart, and renews our mind, and He becomes relevant in our lives and to our generations. It is another way of proclaiming that a Daily walk with Jesus in these times are possible, so that none has an excuse not to. There is none better to speak to our generation about God, than a life that is in pursuit of Christ, His heart, and His truth.

God is looking for One person, Just one. Just One

A Beauty Beyond the Face ..

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“No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written across her face, she will be beautiful.”― Eleanor Roosevelt

The first time someone caught my attention was when i was in the 5th grade. She was fair and beautiful. I longed to be with her but my self-esteem hold me back. I remember many a Saturdays riding my bicycle to her house over 20 kilometers away and just wait on the other side of her house behind the bushes to have a glance of that beautiful face. Not many times have i done that. Why would one drive all the way  when he can meet her every day when there is school ? 🙂 i purused her, silently. And i boasted about my unending love for her, yet the pain of no response and insult from my friends for being a fool. It’s been over 15 years now, still my eyes look for beauty, i cannot take it out. It is a part of me. I would be a hypocrite to say that i do not look at beautiful women. However, in the last 2-3 years, a lot have changed in what beauty means to me.

Every man seeks for the beauty and every woman seeks for that care and protection. I will be looking into the beauty part of it as of now. It was, is and always will be the driving of man for beauty and the pleasure of enjoying the beauty and making it own. One of the properties of Truth is that it is consistent and constant as the time goes by. it may build up and get better, but never contradict nor fade away. Which means that whatever  we claim to be True, whether may it be True Beauty, True Love, True peace, True Joy, True Life, or True ‘anything’, it Has to be consistent. The physical Beauty of a woman maybe instantly captivating, yet as the age goes by it is fading. Then what is in her that makes her worth captivating ?

The ‘Old Living Book’ says “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”. So the real beauty is beyond what is instantly seen or pleasured. One of the reasons whyBeauty and Character relationships break down is because of men fails to see the beauty beyond what the eyes can see, and their eyes are still in their pursuit of satisfying that appetite for fresh instantly pleasing beauty. Finally, it opens doors for multiple partners and relationships outside marriage.

The man who is captivated the character of his woman (singular), is the one going to be forever in True Love with her, for as the years passes by her character becomes finer, and she becomes the most beautiful woman in the whole world, for he know her beyond what his eyes meet. All being easy to write and say, Yet the question remains … HOW ?

The Bible says “God looks at the heart”, and everything comes from the heart according to the condition of the heart. Only God can transform our hearts, and it is our privilege to ask God to look into our heart and help us change it into something worth His glory.

Men, Look to God, He is your God and source of Unlimited Love. Take charge and be responsible steward of what is given to you. Tame your passions. Let Him transform our heart and character which would enable us to see beyond what our eyes can see. Look at the character of  the woman, love her, protect her, respect her. And when the time comes in mono committed relational privacy, secure her in your love and protection till the time ends.,.

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Woman, Look to God, He is your First Love, and the source of Unlimited Love, Security and protection. Let your beauty reflect that of Christ which makes you responsible for how you take care of yourself. Carry yourself with dignity. Allow God to work in your character so that you may find the will of God, His Holy will, and the man who will lead you in the adventure of  Pursuing the Greater Purposes of God. .

5. Declaration of The Commitment

“A man who won’t die for something is not fit to live” –  Martin Luther King, Jr.

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It takes me back to times when I was searching for love, or someone whom I can relate with intimately, till I found the common solution for both the seeks.  As I approached different girls attracted by their beauty, or may be lust in my heart, I was rejected and all attempts failed over and over again. I was foolish. I didn’t even know what I was looking for, ‘Love’ ? If you had asked me at that time, “what is love ?”, I’m not sure if I was in a position to answer that then. If God had not intervened in time, I would have hurt a lots more women, and might have ended up violating them.trapped_in_the_world_of_Kafka_by_tape

There was a time I was emotionally involved with this woman in another country whom I shall leave unnamed. She was beautiful, emotionally sensitive, a simple girl, a broken family, father, a drinker. Whenever I approached her, she made excuses to not to relate with me, and told how unrealistic the relationship would be as both the countries are afar. But cleverly did I give her the calculations of the money involved in the conveyance, and showy I trapped her in, after which we skyped and had regular conversations. I knew I was doing something wrong, and I violated many values which I thought I’d never violate. I was in desperation of love, or what was it anyway? I was just going on the weight of emotions.

One fine Friday, she came on my messenger and told me those golden words “I love You”, to which I responded “What do you mean ?”. I’d no clue what was happening. My mind totally went blank. So after all these years, what I went after is something that I didn’t understand ? That day, I closed the conversation without a response and totally blank, and she, helpless. The next day, during a prayer meeting, I heard the voice “NO”, and I was clear it was about this relationship which I started on the wrong foundation, which was on emotions, evil, lust and lies. Then I said to myself “If it is from GOD, I will obey. Even if it’s not from GOD, I will obey it as if GOD’s will, He will bring it back.” And in half an hour the whole thing was dissolved. Of course she couldn’t handle it, and I as normal guys, I didn’t know what I just did or how to handle or didn’t care much about the girl. As the rest of what I did concerning that is irrelevant to this article, I’m leaving that out. This I’d say that, I asked her apology, and connected her with one of the matured married Christian lady friends in that country and encouraged her to be in touch. Now as I look back, I see that small obedience to the voice which I heard, was the beginning of a change in my life, forever. It was after this that I started my first blog on relationships.

We youngsters are and having been craving for love, many times not realizing what we are craving for. Love is nothing but a word, if there is no commitment. I’ve heard it, time and time again from people who are in relationship, the answer to my question “When are you getting married?” or “Are you sure that he/she is going to marry you ?”. The response was either negative or gray.

A promise must never be broken – Alexander Hamilton

Through the Word of GOD, and my experiences, I started to understanding the real meaning of Love. Love is not just a word, not just a feeling, not just an expression, but a commitment to continuous expression of interest and in intimacy life long , and to never let go, even if the sky falls down. The moment you and I say that “I am in love with you”, or “I love you”, you are entering and committing  to a relationship which is everlasting, else we are just playing with words & lying to self and others.

love-decision-commitmentUnfortunately, many don’t know this as this has not been received or experienced from their parents and the even parents might not have received this love. For this revelation only comes from GOD through the Bible. The moment you and I understand and experience the Committed, Never ending, Unconditional, Experiential, Never Failing, Resurrecting, and Restoring Love, we are revealed of a greater depth of understanding of what it means to Love others.

True Love casts out fear for True love expels the darkness. Many people say, “we both are in love, and it’s not required to get married. we can live together. ” Sadly, what they are actually saying is that “We want to keep our options open, We are  not sure if tomorrow’s mood and desire allows to like to like this man/woman. ” The naked truth is that, both wants to use each other for their own selfish pleasures and desires, nothing to do with Love.  If you are claiming to be in love, test your love and ‘tie the knot’. Don’t beat around the bush. And all this, do it in the presence of your people, so that there is no way out of it, no matter what, but there is help and advice when you need, in taking forward the relationship. That is committed True Love.

To man : If you claim to be in Love with a woman, show that you are man enough to hold her hand and with the assistance of your Old man, ask her parents for her hand. If they don’t allow, that’s a different story. We might talk about that later. But if you think you need more time for a commitment, then wait, respect the lady, respect her body, and for heaven sake don’t abuse her. You prove that you are a man by loving, respecting and protecting the lady you love. Don’t be a Chicken !!
 
To woman : If some guy claims that he is in love with you, don’t fall for it. Know who you are. Don’t let him take your emotions for granted. Draw the boundaries. If he is crossing the boundaries, believe me when I tell you this, ‘he will never respect you and your opinion for the rest of your lives’. Don’t let him touch your body before he declares in front of his parents/elders/mentors that you are his girl forever, and the ‘knot is tied’ & the ‘ring is exchanged’.  
 

Now, many of you think all that I’ve said is impossible unless a miracle happens. Then the rest of the article is for you and especially if you are a true follower of Jesus Christ.commitment1

The reason the Son of GOD, Jesus came to this earth as human, and died is because He loved us, He wanted to save us from sin.  In other words, GOD not only claimed that He loved us, He expressed it through Jesus Christ, His only Son. Jesus rose again on the third day, so that we will have a life and hope again. GOD in Himself is Love. GOD in Himself is expression of that Love, through action. And He wishes to ravished that love on us, and in us. Once you start receiving His Love, through the Word He has given us, you will see a whole new dimension to the Word LOVE. Further more, Jesus expects and commands you to love your partner like His love for us; unchanging, unconditional, committed, earth-shaking, history making, and even life-giving.

We now a days, we despise  and reject the counsel of the elders/mentors, and finally we end up in a real bad state. What I would suggest you is that, IF YOU KNOW, BELIEVE, and SEE that your mentor/elder is having a close walk with Jesus Christ or if they know who you are and if you have the freedom to be transparent with them, then share it with him/her, share your desire before presenting it to the man or woman, and take counsel. But before anything PRAY. None knows the future and the other person better that GOD Himself, who holds the time in His hands, and who know who is who, and how is who.

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist” – Indira Gandhi

May God Bless You !!
George

The Power of Imagination ?! – An experience, a learning..

I was in love with this girl, or say I was in emotional attachment with her. This happened long time ago. .

She was beautiful, and amazing, and I saw sparkle in her eyes. Her hair was better than silk. Her presence was like in the presence of millions of flowers blooming together continuously, forever.  In her character was royalty, and in her walk was grace, and in her gesture was dignity. Her speech was like honey, and words like kisses of love. There was music and so was a melody. The sun was never before brighter, and the greens were never before greener. Ah, it was wonderful. Her fingers crossed into my hands, the softness of her arms gave me comfort, which didn’t make me feel walking, floating, . Even walking on fire would have been a cool walk with her with me. Off we walked on the sea shores or Madagascar, the little warm grains of sand rubbing our feet, painting the feeling of being in the heavens with her, when the rays from the setting sun revealed the beauty of her eyes with a wide open pupil, like a baby wanting to grasp every moment of this new world.  One mile or ten, I ignored the distance, as we reached our hut, where the bed awaited for its joy to serve, for a time for love, intimacy and passion.

I do not know what you feel in your heart, or what you have in mind right now. But this was a dream and imagination of mine, through my mind, day and night, for long days. But then came a day that I realized that the dream stayed a dream, and a pseudo-reality. The real clashed with the unreal. My mind wanted to accept the reality, but heart. All my thoughts and words from her were actually from what i wanted her to say, but not her words at all. Then continued times of depression, frustration, isolation, and feeling of failure to reach my goal and my love.

When i came to my senses, i realize that, i started all with a wrong note, and an assumption of the reality, than the reality itself . And on this assumption, i built the palace, which ultimately broke down into pieces.

What did I gained ? Temporary unreal pleasure..

What did i reap ? Frustration, Disillusionment, Failure, Discouragement, and a broken relationship on the basis of assumption and feelings.

 

My question to you is this.. What is your dream ? What are you doing about it ?

If you have a dream, first of all, base it on realities, and second work towards it.

 

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